How To Have Confidence When You Have None

How To Have Confidence

My self-confidence was zero and I mean it especially in facing people I wasn’t able to do simple things around like asking how much is something or engage in conversation in social gathering without people approach me and even if they do I wasn’t able to keep up and conversation end there many times heard people at school say that I am arrogant and I don’t like anyone which it wasn’t true I was unable to talk to anyone without my heart start racing, palms sweat and I feel my body temperature rises even in cold room with ac and perfectly honest i stay dependent on others to talk to people instead of me especially m y mom and dad and siblings that all was hurting me inside but I didn’t know what to do so I relieved my pain temporarily with distractions mainly food and tv and reading came later.

I don’t know where I got the idea that I lack self-confidence but I went to learn how to be confidently learned from some sources but the material didn’t resonate with me because whether it was just go face your fear without a plan and tell a person like me to face fear when I am so afraid wasn’t good to move me until I came across one book that had the right approach, in my opinion, .going to face the fear is good advice but not when fear is consuming you-you need to start with the mind because it started there and the approach was like that in the book it was gradual but yet changing. I kept doing and followed the way also the program at the end of the book and saw results I went from zero to fifty in my opinion (tbh inside wasn’t that satisfied but when I look back now it was amazing and I am grateful for).

Start from the mind. changing how you think then going to take action on doing the things that scare you

steps to have confidence

1- let go of the past give yourself permission to let go.past is gone no matter how you think of it you wasted time being fearful unable to build your dream that okey move forward and don’t stay in the past because if you do you’ll lose more and regret will kill you like it did to me.

2-learn to relax your mind. because if you aren’t relaxed you become anxious which will block you from being confident.

3-program your mind for confidence. use affirmations, visualizing yourself in a situation which you usually don’t feel confident in. make it daily practice it won’t change in a day so you keep practicing.

4-take care of your appearance. you may wonder why but outside reflects what inside what you wear matter how is your hair looks your skin looks you perceive people by what you see so reflect confidence.

5-take action. make a list of tasks in areas of your life you want to be more confident in don’t go overboard and make it difficult just a little out of your comfort zone, set time when to do it then do it then congratulate yourself evaluate how it went don’t beat yourself up if it didn’t go as you imagined in your head because every step and action will build up and increase your confidence.

peace and love