How To Overcome Presumption and Judgment

Does it hurt to be judged? Of course, does it hurt to be misunderstood sometimes based on color, gender, cloth..etc? Of course, it does(for people who rocking themselves and truly don’t care I am really envious of you but happy too you go ) does it hurt to hear someone talks bad things about you based on appearance only? Of course.

Then why we keep doing it to each other why we don’t want them to get us wrong but we get them wrong why we don’t think based on truth instead of assumption we made in our heads based on old beliefs and early learning from people around us

I made these assumptions so many times I can’t count but I started to notice in recent years nothing like you see and there’s more than one thing to everything. I have seen so many people mock or make themselves feel superior to other people pain or negative situation like a mental health issue anxiety or else.

I experienced myself since I have social anxiety i always hear it from people who knows the the other people who said stuff like”she’s arrogant why can’t she talk to us,why she sits alone in lunch break, why she always silent…” some people have no idea and  to be honest I didn’t know that what I have is social anxiety until recently I always thought I am shy and not confident and you guessed it mom told me that.

No one knew how I felt when I really wanted to talk to someone my whole body and mind enter different state heat rising, sweat increase,heart starts to pump fast and mind goes crazy with thoughts about how and what to say to sound normal and not anxious and when is the right time when in reality the right time is now and at the end I end up not doing the talking or asking then I go home and get alone and start thinking of torture I start blaming myself, talk negatively to myself then it becomes like hunted thought that follows me for a while until I distract myself with tv, anime, food then come to a social event and start again and not to mention all the preparation it precede  social event or any kind of situation involve new people.

we must be mindful when it comes to presumption and making a judgment before knowing everything and always assume the best, not the worst. we tend to do judge and assume no matter what but choose to see the positive and be neutral when you don’t know much and if you know a lot assume the best first

How to overcome the presumption epidemic 

1- be self-aware of  this fact learning and thinking about the matter more will help you be aware when you do it or see others do it

2-get in conversation with yourself: why you have the thought you had on what basis do you have all the information, even so, does that gives the right to presume what you presumed

3-have loving and bigger worldview for people and things: the world doesn’t revolve around you and what your beliefs if you going to believe something better to be love.

4-the world is big and complex people too you can’t Presume everything about a person or thing based on one picture, comment,post..etc

peace and love

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