How To Deal With Fear When It Is Suffocating You

The feeling that crippled me for so long it was always fear no matter how I think about and try to justify not doing something to other reason deep down most if not all my reasons involve me being afraid to do it because it is always out of my comfort zone for as long as I remember I wanted to do something big and change the world and be known but I was I afraid to in front of people,talk to them or anything that involve people as result i tend to put myself down by negative self talk like I don’t know yet or need many tools and things to do something just put bricks in my way because deep down I knew I had to interact with people even in the minimalist way like when presenting my ideas or talk about normal things which to be completely honest I was unable to talk to cashier, office administrator ,teacher..etc it was huge deal to go to ask about something even if it is a small thing like asking how much something is? And when I had to do a presentation I would be in a nervous state and stressful weeks or months ahead if I knew when it going to happen.

The simplest task of asking about something it requires for me to practice how to do it and think when to go all details that some don’t consider in short it was an agony for me so I tried to say to myself not yet,wait more,you’re not ready yet you need to learn more you don’t know yet you need to know everything before starting which of course not true and it was my way to go to my comfort zone of being alone and distract myself from the pain of not pursuing my dreams or whatever goal I had at the time then after finish distracting myself I feel pain go again to repeat the cycle

So I decided to take action after this long time in fear I used the tools below that helped me and changed my thoughts it wasn’t easy to start interacting with people but I started to do it small and still do but i am in much better place than and i believe whatever the thing you want to do in life right now and you’re not doing it is because of fear if you go deeper behind the excuse you’re saying to yourself I have learned few things that helped me to deal and changing the way we think about fear and take action and I want to share it with you

First, You must set your mindset right by having the right thoughts here’re the thoughts and ideas I learned to change my mindset and perspective

I learned that fear is part of the process and I should and must follow it. I learned that everything I lack I can learn. i learned that getting uncomfortable is going to help me tremendously to achieve my goals and dreams,learned face the fear and use tactics and tools to lessen it and be more bold,learned that fear can be changed by practice,learned that I can’t let my life and dreams slip while I watch it happens because I can’t take it anymore. learned to focus on my goals and dreams instead of fear. I want to have my rightful place in the world and don’t deny myself that, learned that regret is so painful and I can’t take it anymore.

I am a person who loves advice that can be implemented not only thoughts so here are practical tips I found useful in dealing with fear

1-use affirmation

2-visualization imagine yourself doing the thing you want with confidence, extent instead of fear

3-repeat the new thoughts in your head

4-exposing yourself to new the new thoughts you want to implement by watching, listening, reading about them and writing those ideas on repeat and saying out loud to yourself

take action gradually, start small but do it consistently in whatever thing you feel afraid of doing