How To Practice Self Love : a complete guide
What Is Self Love
Self love is an act of unconditional respect, care, understanding and having all our needs met.
It’s to Invest in your relationship with yourself. To Take the time to get to know yourself. To know you’re worth without a need to prove it, to know you’re enough, you’ve always been enough, you know that you’re always evolving to the next version of yourself, to know you’ll make mistakes but that doesn’t change who you are, connecting with your soul and the greater power in the universe.
To put yourself, emotions, thoughts first because from there you can give even more to others.
and take good care of yourself in all aspect of life from health, relationships, career/work, finance, spiritual and personal growth.
Self-love is long and never-ending romance with yourself.
Oscar Wilde once said, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
Why You Must Love Yourself
You’ll be in a better mental space, you’ll experience less anxiety, depression, and stress.
You will able to take more actions and move toward what you want because you love yourself enough to go and do whatever it takes to bring your dream life to reality.
Your body will be in a more healthier place because you’ll choose based on love when love comes into play health too.
It is going to give you a sureness that whatever you’re going through will pass; nothing stays the same in life so, do you.
You’ll seek personal growth to achieve and have the life you want ( to be honest it’s boring if we stay stagnant and the same)
Make you experience peace and calmness from inside, that feels so different from any other.
Give you the ability to move past your downfalls, failures, and mistakes.
How To Love Yourself
Ways to self love
1-Create self- love routine. where you do activities you love to do regularly by setting a date to do it on eg. every Sunday, every month and so on.
2-Waer what makes you feel happy, joyful and confident.
3-Be mindful of how you think, feel and act. Choose to act from a positive loving space and don’t feel bad if you fill into
you need to accept that you won’t be positive all the time even if you tried it will come times where you feel sad, angry, frustrated..etc. just treat your self with compassion.
4-Don’t let others walk all over you and drain you. refuse to do, to love what deplete you. have boundaries.
5- Cherish your body and treat it with respect and love.
by eating what it needs, by eating nutritious food that going to boost your energy and health.
by moving it to keep it healthy, by being conscious of its need and wants.
6- Be compassionate with yourself no matter what the situation is. you can always be. to learn more about the topic of self-compassion read here
7- Practice forgiving yourself for what you did, every mistake, a failure because you did what you could do for the time it was.
know that mistakes, failure it’s there to help you learn and doesn’t mean something specific about you.
8- Take care of your basic needs: health, relationships, mind, body, safety, accomplishments, creative activities and achieving your full potential.
9-Assess your beliefs, thoughts and if they are not for your highest good change them. The best way is to journal your thoughts and see what triggers you.
then get deeper, ask yourself what’s the thought, why it made feel x.y & z, what is the thought that drove this feeling(s).
after that, star by proving the thought wrong by arguing with it on paper and writing what is true. after that, create a new belief using affirmations
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11-read or write affirmations daily. It’s a great way to reprogram your mind to love yourself and many other things.
examples of affirmations are: I am getting to know myself, I love myself, day after day I love myself more..etc. repetition going to make new beliefs stick because your brain will get tired from the repeating and accept it but that takes multiple and multiple of repetition you must keep at it. because your brain doesn’t like to exert effort and repeating a new belief going to require energy to be exerted by the brain.
12- meditated. We all know about it but we don’t do it, I bet you are not. I have done it here and there.
This year, I started to do it regularly in the morning. I do the guided one because it helps me focus my mind or else I can’t do it alone in silence with my thoughts yet (but to be honest I didn’t try doing it without a guide to know for sure but that how I feel would happen). there’re apps that help guide you like headspace, calm
13- cook something you love for yourself. if you don’t know how to do it just look on the internet for the recipe and try it( i don’t normally succeed at first try but eventually do after many tries 😉 ).
it’s a time to spend with yourself with yourself without being silent if this not comfortable with you yet. because on some point you need to spend time with yourself in silent to know you more.
14- go on a date with yourself. pick a place that you like restaurant, movies, park or else. go where you love to go.
tip: don’t complicate it by wanting to go to place far from where you live that you need to travel if you can’t go (but if you can go for it, do you!!) because there’s a place you want to go where you live that you love or at last you are interested in.
15- make it intentional to love yourself and invest in taking care of you. write it as you do with other goals.
16- get to know yourself by journaling. ask and answer questions like here
17-make self growth part of your life and actively seek it. if you haven’t started your personal growth (i assume you did start because you’re reading this ;)) just start
18- live intentionally. when you set your intentions on how you want to live or do anything and then follow through; that’s will increase your self-love and
19- live with purpose. purpose doesn’t have to be something big. it could be as simple as “I want to be healthy and have a positive impact on the world” even though you don’t what kind of impact that would be but it will help you start on the journey to discover it.
20- let go of old things to make room for new things. Things that may hold negative feelings for you if you get rid of them it will help cleanse your physical and mental space for new and best things to happens and come your way.
21- when you feel down and things seem not working as you want, make a list of “what’s working for you“. it will make you see all the positive in your life.
Self – Love Exercises
these exercises i learned from Aileen at lavendaire youtube channel and it helped me a lot
on piece of paper or journal
1- write 10 things you love about yourself. could be anything from I love my hair, I love how confident I am, I love my legs and so on.
2- write traits, characteristics you don’t love about yourself where you are being hard on yourself, that get you frustrated with yourself and you ask yourself why i did that..etc then follow it by this sentence” …but i love myself anyway”.
examples are: I distract myself a lot because of fear but I love myself anyway, I procrastinate a lot but I love myself anyway, I compare myself to others and distract myself to feel better after but I love myself anyway, I sabotage my health by eating sweets but I love myself anyway, I am overweight but I love myself anyway, I have dark marks or hyperpigmentation on my body but I love myself anyway and so on.
contact me if you need help with the exercises
if you want more ways to practice self-love check this post
write in the comment one thing you love about yourself
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